April 17, 2005


We are so influenced by what we do, say, and believe. We are expected to act and believe a certain way by our church, by our spouses, and according to our profession. Other things influence as well, but these are the major ones. My question is what happens if they don't agree. Then to make matters worse...your own opinion differs as well!!

This is kind of the delimma that I am in lately. It kind of leaves me in a 'To post or not to post' kind of mode. If I post about something that I'm not passionate about...I feel like I am wasting my time. If I post about something that I 'am' passionate about...I'm going to be at odds with someone!! Usually it is my husband.

I don't want to argue with my husband for the obvious reasons. I don't want to disagree with the church for abvious reasons...and I'm not qualified yet to base decisions on anything to do with nursing. I can still offer my opinion in the transportation industry though. :o)

My husband and I have very differnt beliefs...yet similar..in a way. You kind of know what I mean if you read either of our blogs regularly. However, I can't help but feel that a storm is brewing. We are bound to get into a big one soon. It is inevitable. Our opinions are just opposite enough to cause friction and arguments and I feel that things may come to a head before long. Certain things have happened lately that can't keep occuring without causing problems.

Who would have thought that a Universalist Unitarian liberal atheist and a Church of God conservative Christian could co-exist as peaceably as we have for as long as we have? Sure, we have had our moments, but have come through with a great relationship all in all. Can we continue this way with little or no problems or is it bound to hit the proverbial fan?

Posted by Barbara at April 17, 2005 10:05 PM

I think that if he really believes what the Universal Unitarians say that they believe, he will respect what you believe and not argue or belittle you in any way. One of their precepts is (and I quote) "We regard the highest values to be integrity, caring, compassion, social justice, truth, personal peace and harmony. Advancing these values is a major purpose of our congregations."

It occurs to me that the rub will be the same difficulty that the Apostle Paul described in Romans chapter 7. Beginning with verse 15: "For what I am doing, I do not understand. For what I will to do, that I do not practice; but what I hate, that I do. 16 If, then, I do what I will not to do, I agree with the law that it is good. 17 But now, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me. 18 For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh) nothing good dwells; for to will is present with me, but how to perform what is good I do not find. 19 For the good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice."

Let's just hope and pray that he will come to the same place as Paul and ask: "Who will deliver me from this body of death? 25 I thank God--through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, with the mind I myself serve the law of God, but with the flesh the law of sin."

Your spouse knew this at one time in his life and I believe that the Lord has his Shepherd's staff always around his neck ready to pull him back. He waits patiently for us to return on our own. If we refuse, then the Shepherd does pull us back. A shepherd of a flock of sheep will break the front legs of a straying sheep and then carry it until the legs heal. If our Lord has to do this, He lovingly carries us until. After that, we will never stray very far.

Posted by: Jan at April 28, 2005 04:37 PM

Pardon the mistake. I intended to say "He carries us until we heal."

Posted by: Jan at April 28, 2005 04:39 PM